When Nate and I got engaged in March, we didn't know how the details of planning a wedding were going to work out, since I was going to be in school full-time (in an all-consuming program) and living two hours away from our home-base. We considered waiting to get married until after I finished school (in late 2014) but ultimately decided that it didn't suit us, especially since I would likely be in the doldrums of job-hunting at that point. The logistics of planning such a huge event when your life is unstable are, I'm sure, extremely overwhelming. So we decided to do the next most stressful thing: plan a wedding for the two week November break in between my quarters at school. I had six finals in the week and a half leading up to the wedding and only one day off before the big day.
The event might have been different if we had arranged the details during a less intense season of our lives. I might have had more time to hang garland and cut hearts out of metallic paper or something. But I deeply believe that those details don't add to the substance of life events. To us, the most important aspect of the wedding was the ceremony. We wanted it to be meaningful, reflective of us, and enjoyable, and it far exceeded our expectations. The other stuff was slightly neglected, and the result was that the DJ was a bit overbearing, and my dress was a touch too short. Everything else was just right. The cake was the cutest thing, the food was good, the venue was beautiful and the guests were the best group of people we could ask for.
A wedding is like any party--it will take on its own personality. You can guide it in the direction you'd like it to go, but it will do as it pleases once it starts. Things will go wrong and things will go right, and hopefully it's the important stuff that goes right. For us, it did. For that, I'm incredibly grateful.
And for all of the people who love us, I'm even more grateful. And for my new husband, I'm most grateful.
<3,
Nicole
The event might have been different if we had arranged the details during a less intense season of our lives. I might have had more time to hang garland and cut hearts out of metallic paper or something. But I deeply believe that those details don't add to the substance of life events. To us, the most important aspect of the wedding was the ceremony. We wanted it to be meaningful, reflective of us, and enjoyable, and it far exceeded our expectations. The other stuff was slightly neglected, and the result was that the DJ was a bit overbearing, and my dress was a touch too short. Everything else was just right. The cake was the cutest thing, the food was good, the venue was beautiful and the guests were the best group of people we could ask for.
A wedding is like any party--it will take on its own personality. You can guide it in the direction you'd like it to go, but it will do as it pleases once it starts. Things will go wrong and things will go right, and hopefully it's the important stuff that goes right. For us, it did. For that, I'm incredibly grateful.
And for all of the people who love us, I'm even more grateful. And for my new husband, I'm most grateful.
<3,
Nicole
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